Marriage
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successful marriage[edit]
The most important and crucial and at the same time the most difficult choice for all of us during life is choosing a spouse. There are many criteria to choose from. But these criteria are not the same for everyone, and that is the difficulty. Not all morals, behaviors, and living conditions are the same, and because understanding is the most important principle for a successful marriage, the criteria for choosing a spouse will also be different. For some, the first priority; Individual opinions. For others; Appearance . Some prioritize money and material things, and some prioritize ethics and behavior.
It is not possible to say exactly which person's priorities take precedence. If a girl or boy intending to get married; In order to make the right choice, he must first be clear about his task. Know the characteristics of your ideal spouse and prioritize them. In the second step, from the available options, choose the one who is closer to your ideal spouse. In fact, he must always rule his heart in the early stages of his mind. The third step is to refer to the heart and the senses. To know how we feel about the person in question. We are not going to fall in love with him in the first place. Not
It is enough to have a pleasant feeling towards the person or, as the saying goes, to sit down. Do not worry . Because love and affection are created between couples over time. This is what God has promised and there is no doubt about it.
وَ مِنْ آیاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَکُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِکُمْ أَزْواجاً لِتَسْکُنُوا إِلَیْها وَ جَعَلَ بَیْنَکُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَ رَحْمَةً إِنَّ فی ذلِکَ لَآیاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ یَتَفَکَّرُون»؛
And one of His signs is that He has created for you mates of your own kind, that you may find comfort in them, and He has made for you kindness and mercy. These are signs for a people who reflect.
The time that God creates between a man and a woman will certainly be so strong that it will sweeten life on its own and we will succeed in marriage.
Those who meet and get married in the traditional way, the best solution; The methods are listed. But ...
But a girl and a boy who meet outside the family environment and become friends for a while with the intention of getting married. The main priority of all of them is that they are interested in each other. In such cases, families should feel threatened and be by the side of their children so that they do not go astray and ruin their lives for the sake of a feeling of empty interest.
Girls and boys who intend to get married in such a situation should know that they should not give up their priorities for marriage out of interest in the other party and should not enter the field with just one feeling.
It is true that the existence of love and affection between a girl and a boy is one of the necessary pillars of a successful marriage. But it is not enough.
We need to know that married life will not always be full of love and happiness. There are many problems in cohabitation that cannot be achieved without having a companion and a secure spouse. An understanding that is discussed at the time of marriage; It is life for hard times. Otherwise, times of joy and happiness of strangers and even enemies can accompany the person.
Even when there is a small argument between a girl and a boy who have just gotten married, the understanding of the first and last word comes. If couples agree with each other and do not play the wrong instrument, not only will their problems not upset them, but they will increase the interest and dependence between them. When a man or a woman sees that his wife accompanies him in times of trouble and removes the burden from him, his love and trust in his wife increases and he makes every effort to make his wife happy.
Do not ignore the advice of adults when getting married. We should not marry the person we want alone and out of stubbornness and force. If the family is with us, we will not be alone even if there is a problem. Older people can handle the situation better than we do.
Important Note: I do not mean asking adults for guidance in opening the way for them to be involved throughout life. It is a mistake to discuss all the issues with them even after marriage and to avoid the burden of problems. Not only does it make us immature and dependent, it opens the door for others to interfere in our lives. Each family of a girl and a boy because they consider the best interests of their child under any circumstances; Sometimes they see their child apart from his wife. This causes differences between the couple.
Closing remarks:
Be careful not to ruin our lives by a mistake.
The rule of reason over the heart is, first of all, to pay attention to our true feelings, to consult the family and, if necessary, to consult a counselor.
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